Things we pay for.
Sunday, May 28th, 2006If you are lonely and depressed, you pay for a session with a psychologist.
If you are single, severely lonely and depressed, you pay for prozac.
If you are sick and bed-ridden, you pay for a door-to-door laundry service.
If you want to work out with companions, you pay for Fitness First membership.
If your car won’t start in the morning and you simply have to go, you pay a cab driver to ferry you.
Actually, all you need is to call a friend, or sometimes, your neighbour.
The modern culture encloses us in a fast paced lifestyle that disconnects us from meaningful human relationships.
Robert Putnam made a few sharp observations in his book titled Bowling Alone:
- From 1980 to 1993, participation in bowling (in America) was up 10%, but the number of bowling leagues decreased 40%, as more people bowled alone.
- In the past 25 years, fast-food outlets has increased 100%, while full-service restaurants decreased 25%. More people are eating alone or eating take-aways in their cars.
- From 1992 to 1999, the amount of time spent caring for a pet increased 15%.
Putnam’s study concluded that for America, people are increasingly detached from human interaction. Money and energy are channeled into technology and gadgets, pets, beauty care and self-entertainment. More and more people are spending lonely nights at home with take-away food and their well-groomed pets, watching reality TV (amazing race? survivor?) or sitcoms (Desperate housewives? Lost?) which ironically built their popularity for tackling the subject of human relationships.
I hope this pervading American culture won’t invade our communities and eradicate our mamak stalls. That will be so sad.
Go hug someone today.




